Achieving complete Sexual Fulfillment

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THE MALE SEX ORGANS

:THE FEMALE SEX ORGANS

:INTERCOURSE

:FOREPLAY

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POSITIONS FOR COITUS

:COITAL MOVEMENTS

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PROLONGING THE SEXUAL ACT

:TYPES OF ORGASM

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THE WOMAN'S ROLE IN INTERCOURSE

:ORAL AND ANAL SEXUALITY


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Achieving complete Sexual Fulfillment

Oral and Anal Sexuality

No two sexual terms create greater furor and wildly emotionalized and sensationalized responses than orality and anality in the sexual relationship. Our Judeo-Christian backgrounds have given us a built-in repugnance for both; our natural animal hidden desires give us a fascination for these forms of sexuality. We are at once in conflict, and conflict in sex is usually concomitant with guilt. To take the chain of responses to the obvious conclusion, guilt is the enemy of a sexual relationship.

Therefore, for many couples, when this topic arises (as it will, almost inevitably), there is decision to be made: go alone with the partner's wishes and attempt to hide the repugnance; flatly refuse; or use reason and logic to exorcise the feelings of repugnance and guilt. It is the latter choice that we are mainly concerned with in this chapter.

Since oral contacts and genital kissing are more common than anality, we'll deal with these first.

What is Oral Sex?

Oral sex simply means the contact between the mouth and the racial effect on genitals size. When a mouth (either a man's or a woman's) is kissing and caressing the clitoris and vulva of a woman we call the act Cunnilingus, a term which comes from the Latin cunnus, meaning vulva and lingere, meaning to lick. An older version of the world (used, for example by Havelock Ellis and earlier sexologists) was spelled cunnilinctus, and cunnilinctio is sometimes seen. In any case, the meaning is the same. When the female vulva is subjected to lip and tongue caresses we describe the act by one of these names. Perhaps it is unfortunate that we use the same name to describe the act, no matter what sex the performer of the act may be. Hence, the word has unfortunate homosexual overtones that we'll discuss later.

Just as the vulva can be the recipient of lip and tongue caresses, so, of course, can the male sex organ. Whether the caressing is done by a man or woman, we call the act fellatio, from the Latin fellare, meaning to such. Fortunately a distinguishing name applies to the woman who performs this act. She is called a fellatrice, while a man who performs it on another man is called a fellator.

Overcoming Objections to Performing Oral Sex

The two main objections given by people who are reluctant to engage in oral techniques of lovemaking include hygiene (such contact is dirty)and the psychological attitude that oral contact is perverted, a concept that probably stems from the fact that lesbians and male homosexuals used oral contacts extensively. It is from these two ideas, one physical and one psychological, that our conflicts and guilt arise. So let us turn the light of reason on both and look at the facts for a moment instead of the "feelings."

First of all, the reasons that you associate dirtiness with the genitals is because you were taught to. You were taught that because the genitals are responsible for urination, they are automatically covered with germs. This is pure fallacy. Of course, the genitals can become dirty, but in this day and age there is absolutely no reason why the sexual
female sex organs should be any dirtier than the lips. Secondly, if the feeling of dirtiness is in the way of performing oral techniques, most couples are only a few feet from the shower or sink before they go to bed. Use a little soap on the genitals before attempting oral contact. Or better still, really assure yourself of cleanliness by purchasing an anti-bacterial soap such as those used in hospital operating theaters (currently available in any drug store) and wash each other's genitals. Certainly that ought to take care of any nonsensical ideas about bad hygiene.

The fact of the matter is, as any doctor would be glad to point out, there are probably more germs and bacteria in your mouth than there are on the genitals of a normally clean and fastidious man and woman. Oral sex probably places germs upon the sexual male sex organs of the other person! After you have eaten a meal, allowed food residue in the teeth to ferment for just a few hours, and combined this residue with stray germs from an incipient head cold or the sinuses, your mouth (on a bacteriologist slide) would look like a veritable cesspool, and yet very likely French kissing is a normal part of your love relationship. So, you see, the hygienic objection just doesn't stand up. If your mate wants you to perform oral connection, you can't say no because "it's not clean." It's cleaner than kissing.or can be made cleaner in just a few seconds at the sink.

The other objection may be innate in both of you. Somehow you feel, deep down inside of you, that oral contact is wrong. It's deviate behavior. You'd feel guilty afterward, even if you could bring yourself to do it. If this is the case you have either a latent homosexuality within you-and don't worry, most of us to, to some extent - or an overly developed sense of what is proper or accepted behavior.

It is perfectly true that male homosexuals very often practice fellatio. And by the same token, lesbians perform cunnilingus. Some homosexuals of both sexes become so skilled at oral technique that they claim (and their partners back up the claim) that genital sex loses its luster. This probably won't happen to you, because psychologically you have likely proven conclusively by now that you are healthily fixated at a genital level. Buy the very fact that these claims are being made today, and have been made down through history, means that oral sex does offer new delights and sensations and very likely you should try them.

Both homosexuals and heterosexuals have mouths and genitals. Oral contact is just as fulfilling for heterosexual can experience the entire range of sexuality from the psychologically infantile (although physical gratifying) oral stage to the matured genital stage of development. Just because homosexuals perform oral
sexual boredom contacts you shouldn't feel that they have an exclusive license on it. I'd like to ask you one question to get this idea of "perversion" in regard to oral sex out of your mind once and for all: how can any act that takes place between a man and a woman possibly be a homosexual act? Of course it can't be. And no stretching of syntax, or linguistics, can make it one.

Some facts about Orality